It’s been about 3 weeks since I issued our first-ever opinion poll here at Clever Dude. I asked all of you what you thought about Natural Birth vs. Adoption, and the results were very encouraging!
36% of you want to adopt and 12% are adopted or have adopted and want to adopt (again)!
For various reasons, some given as comments, 28% of you don’t think adoption is right for you. For some, it’s just not the right time in your life, but you haven’t ruled out the option in the future.
Now, for laughs, I added the options “Adoption is bad. Natural birth only!” (7%) and “Everyone must stop having babies!” (17%). Sometimes I do think people should just stop having babies, but that’s only when I meet some ill-equipped or unprepared parents who can’t discipline their children properly. The feeling passes eventually though.
What have we been up to?
Stacie and I actually attended an adoption expo in Salisbury, MD, a couple weeks ago and really enjoyed ourselves. The turnout was light as it was the first ever expo for this group, but we learned a wealth of information about domestic and international adoption directly from the source: adoption agencies.
We’re leaning towards a domestic adoption (for our first adoption), but would consider international for a second (or third!) child. Actually, at this time, a number of countries have closed their process to new adoptions as they rework their systems.
Given the costs of international adoption ($20,000-45,000) versus domestic adoption ($10,000-20,000), we’d like to keep the costs low for the first one. Also, the combination of the $11,000 adoption federal tax credit and my wife’s company’s benefits ($7,500) would cover most or all of our own costs. Also, Maryland has a state tax credit, but we haven’t looked into the amount and restrictions yet.
As we progress through the process, I’ll write about our experiences and lessons learned, and even answer any questions that you submit. Hold on, cause I know we’re in for a heck of a ride!