6 Things Wives Do That Make Husbands Feel Unappreciated
As my wife and I come up on our sixth wedding anniversary, I have realized how much work we put in to making our marriage work. Every relationship requires some level of effort. However, there are instances where you might be making your husband (or partner) feel unappreciated without even realizing it. Here are six things wives might be doing that make their husbands feel this way that you should avoid.
1. Taking Him for Granted
One of the biggest things that can make a husband feel unappreciated is when his wife takes him for granted. Over time, couples can get comfortable with each other, which is a good thing in many ways, but it can lead to neglecting acts of appreciation. If a wife assumes her husband will always be there to take care of everything—whether it’s handling finances, helping with the kids, or even doing household chores—it can lead him to feel invisible and unimportant. A simple thank you for his efforts or acknowledging his hard work can make a huge difference.
2. Not Listening or Validating His Feelings
Communication is essential in any relationship, but when a wife dismisses her husband’s emotions or fails to truly listen, it can leave him feeling unappreciated. Men often feel like their feelings are invalidated if their concerns are met with silence or indifference. For instance, when he talks about a stressful day at work or a personal issue, simply listening and offering empathy can make him feel supported. Instead of trying to fix everything, offering a listening ear shows that you care about his emotions.
3. Ignoring His Needs for Physical Affection
Physical touch is a vital part of any romantic relationship, but some wives, especially in long-term marriages, can unintentionally neglect their husband’s need for physical affection. Whether it’s a hug, kiss, or simply holding hands, physical intimacy plays a major role in making a husband feel loved and desired. When this need goes unmet, it can make him feel disconnected and unimportant. Physical affection isn’t just about sex—it’s about showing love and reinforcing the bond.
4. Overloading Him with Responsibilities
When a wife takes on too many responsibilities herself, or continually asks her husband to take on extra tasks, it can lead to him feeling overwhelmed and unappreciated. This might happen with a combination of work duties, household chores, or emotional labor. While it’s normal for couples to share responsibilities, there are times when one partner can feel the burden more than the other. It’s crucial to find a balance in dividing responsibilities and ensuring that both partners have time to recharge.
5. Not Acknowledging His Efforts
When a wife doesn’t acknowledge the efforts her husband makes, even when they go above and beyond, it can make him feel invisible. Whether it’s taking care of the car, mowing the lawn, or working hard to provide for the family, recognizing his efforts can make a huge impact. Acknowledging what he does shows that you see and value his contribution. Without this recognition, a husband may feel like his hard work is unappreciated.
6. Using Criticism Instead of Constructive Feedback
While it’s important to express concerns in any relationship, using harsh criticism instead of constructive feedback can make a husband feel disrespected and unappreciated. When a wife constantly points out what her husband is doing wrong without offering encouragement or support, it can create emotional distance. A better approach is to focus on solutions and offer feedback in a way that is constructive and respectful. Positive reinforcement can motivate him to improve, rather than leaving him feeling defeated.
Keep Appreciation at the Heart of Your Marriage
If you want your marriage to thrive, you need to put an effort into showing your spouse appreciation and respect. Any time your other half is feeling unappreciated, there are things you can do to turn it around and strengthen your bond. Make sure you’re listening, offering affection, and acknowledging what they do. Love isn’t just about romantic gestures. You have to show up and choose each other every single day.
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Drew Blankenship is a former Porsche technician who writes and develops content full-time. He lives in North Carolina, where he enjoys spending time with his wife and two children. While Drew no longer gets his hands dirty modifying Porsches, he still loves motorsport and avidly watches Formula 1.